Friday, May 14, 2010

Been a way a while

I have not forgotten about you.

SO much has happened since I last blogged here at

I've started all sorts of businesses and will need to find a way to relay it all to you - when I get time of course.

Start here :: - OH NO! a Wordpress blog?!?!?!

Relax; I like my blogger blog too :) - this one is for my businesses that I have been working on - all are good; Highly recommended; MORE details coming "here" soon!

Friday, September 25, 2009

Updates :: hello world! - whats up with all the Ignorance?

Hey folks,

Been on a bit of a break while still working towards helping to make people more aware of what's happening around them, on all levels of society.

The 'fantasy fall out' really turned into a 'fall out' :: but the spirit was all about getting the Truth out so that people can know both sides. Like so many things in our world, people too often get THEIR Side out first, and make the OTHER side look bad; I just wanted to beat them to the punch.

This is so typical though :: Just last week I ended up in verbal fights with people close to me; Now they were wrong; but what tends to happen with people is, they get upset that I cussed them out; They never look at why I had to cuss them out; They over look how wrong they talked to me, how disrespectful they treated me, and so it's starting to become Pretty annoying.

I'd like to address this to everyone in the world.

If you wrong someone, They have a Right to cuss you out for it;

If they chose not to, that is their choice; but if they chose TO do it, it's not because they are a bad person; no... YOU are a bad person for mistreating them, and expecting to be Respected in return.

What annoys me is, I've developed a reputation, that has been miscommunicated and misconstrued by "Victim Mentality" people :: people who like to portray themselves as innocent, when they are far from it.

I say all of this because it's Very similar to what happened with the 'fantasy fall out' - the people named in those blog posts, got upset with me. Nevermind that they wronged me, talked bad about me amongst each other and anyone who would listen ... nevermind that they owed (and many still owe) me money :: They act like I'm supposed to just be Okay with it all; and not say, or do anything back.

I'm finding that there are Far too many people in our World like this :: What the hell is happening?

What has made so many people think they can say, and do anything, and NOT face repercussions?

How have so many people gotten such Crazy thoughts in their heads?

Maybe it's because I grew up playing sports, and I recognize that we all make mistakes; but when we Make them, it only benefits us to acknowledge the mistake, so we can Learn from it --- and NOT Make the SAME Mistakes over and over again.

While I work on not cussing people out who wrong me; there doesn't seem to be any other peaceful alternatives; So while I look and pray for one, please pray for me :) Pray for our world... and for the hope that Common sense, will one day soon, become "common"

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

Fantasy Fall Out 3.... the end

Ok,,, time to put this story to bed.

It really is a shame that all of this had to happen over a Fantasy game...

I mean, ThaShow was not created to address my "personal issues with other people" - it was created to discuss larger issues that impact us all; as a society, a nation, and a people struggling to understand our lifes' purpose.

But, this story to me, seemed to be somewhat related to those lager, big picture topics; Such as how race affects how people treat Other people. I do wonder if things would have gone the same way, if I were a white guy.

Would I have been called ignorant; a cheater; would my motives have been questioned the same way; Would my response to these accusations (if they came) been treated with the same disrespect, if I were white?

These are the kinds of questions black people have. Like the Professor Louis Gates; as a black man, I and many others already know what kinds of things he was saying to the Police Officer; We all come from a shared experience in America, where we feel the Police unfairly target us; pick on us; harass us, and for a man of his stature to be harassed In His Own Home, I can understand totally, why the man got Irate.

White people on the other hand, don't.

It stems from their insensitivity towards the black experience... their lack of understanding, perhaps derived from a lack of Care, to find out, what it means to be black "in America" ...

Jenny, likewise, could not understand why I go so Irate with her on her voicemail; because she called me Niggorant; Oh... I mean Ignorant.

I think it's one of the worst insults for a white person to lob at a black person; because of the history; the meaning of the word, and the ongoing bad relationship between the white and black race -- which many whites are quick to point at and say "it's gotten better!" ... but better, ain't all that great still; and that my dear white people of the world; is the real issue.

I'm a very direct person. When I have a problem with someone, I tell them.

Perhaps that too, is part of being black; you whitness a lot of directness growing up, in your family, and others - so you naturally take hold to it as well. The White world would view this as "being confrontational" ... and yet, I believe the only way to truly solve problems, is to face them - to take them on - and to ... Confront them.

So Confrontational is not always bad.

I would have much rather preferred to have never spoken out about this private situation. I'm not the guy to name names; and so I can understand why those who got named are upset about it. However, had they never done, what they did, this all never would have happened.

Its too hard for them to see that, apparently, because they are continuing to whine and cry about what I post here, even though it's ME who was victimized - NOT them.

I'm the one who was insulted, offended, mistreated, disrespected, and slandered; Not them; I'm the one who's OWED $80 ... Not Them. ... and what sucks about this is, they seem to be taking a 'white is right' approach; a refusal to admit wrong doing; a desire expressed for me to just move on, and forget about what happened in the past. ...

We're right; You're wrong; Let's not talk about it ... and act like it's all good.

As a black man, I have been called racist plenty of times, simply for wanting to Talk about racism. It's the topic, that white people avoid like the plague; And when they do address it, they seem to do so, with such dishonesty, that no progress ever gets made.

Heck, it's early ... only 40 years into this "new world" that was Racist as hell for 400 ... So I guess I'm expecting too much, too soon.

Here's to the hope that progress is made... and to the hope that more white people will start Doing Right by others; This is not to say that blacks don't also wrong people; I know plenty who do it all the time; however their disrespect and wrong doing seems to have Less to do with the race of the other person; and more to do with the "lack" in their own lives; coupled with a misunderstanding of how to get More -- they feel you get more by Taking from others; They do not realize you get more, by GIVING to others.

My past (and character) was brought up in the comment section - and it goes to show you how stupid some of these people are; one incident does not outweigh the multitude of good things I have done in my life.

I have always been pro-love -- even what I did, came out of a center of love, and a desire to make others happy. That's my character... that's who I am.

Even the facts of what happened in the Fantasy league spell out who I really am. My actions, were done at a time when I most likely was NOT going to even make it to the final round; My actions were done to make the championship round more interesting, more even; The people in the Consolation round should have understood that; They should have stopped playing - they should have realized that they were taking Away players from people who EARNED the right to play "for the money" ...

But they were selfish; they were self centered; they did not care about the Good of the Game; They only cared about them selves here -- they didn't care about being right either; not 'really right' ... because that's who they are. That is their character...

And ,,, Like attracts Like.

(opposites attract, was a song by Paula Abdul, not a researched, documented fact.)

That's right folks, birds of a feather truly do flock together. Similar people are attracted to one another; This is most likely why they don't understand where I'm coming from; I'm too different from them. My actions are puzzling, and baffling to people like this... it is not in their mental make up, to grasp, that they wronged me, they owe me money, they could have avoided all of this by paying up;

Everyone else paid up ... My friend in AZ sent his money; one guy who thought it was still $10, and didn't realize the price changed to $20 (based on a league vote) complained, voiced his displeasure, and then paid his $20 ... none of their names got dragged into this ;) ...

As I've explained to others close to the story; It's really not even about the Money; To me, it's like these people decided they were gonna Punk me; and I'm not for being punked... :)

For now, this story is going to bed ... no more will be said here at thaShow until a decision is made on what I am going to do; I thank all of you who emailed me, called me, to discuss this with me like an adult; I say shame on you who posted comments under the "anonymous" tag; You are a coward, whoever you are -- and here's to all of you seeking to play Fantasy with 'friends & acquaintences' ... my advice, Stick to the friends; leave the people you don't really know OUT ... you never know what kind of Trouble they may create; or what kind of Character (or lack of it) they have...

Friday, July 24, 2009

Fantasy Fall Out 2....

Just wanted to let you know that K paid up. So now, we're talking about $80 ...not $100

There have been some interesting revelations though. Things happening behind the scenes I was not aware of; Casting an interesting light on ... these people.

I won't name any names here... but apparently a dude we've all known, started seeing Jennifer Loftin, after one of my boys stopped seeing her.

That's Shady ...

What kind of 'friend' starts Dating a friends ex girl??

You can't find any other women in the world?? I understand that sometimes alcohol clouds judgement, and perhaps they hooked up on a drunken night; but to Keep doing it after that?? .... wtf?

Anyways, this new information cast light on the comments made on my original post. Clearly, I was way off in my guesses, and assumptions, of "who" was behind those comments. The NEW information sheds light on exactly who that is.

Dude has been this way all his life; a two faced, back stabbing, kiss ass. Frankly, I've never liked the guy.

He finds out who's in charge, and kisses their ass real good; Washes their balls ya know... makes them feel like King of the Hill; He would do this with our Basketball Coaches; Like a "teachers pet" ... then, he'd start shit with players on the team, and if any of those players lashed out at him, the Coach... who's balls have been washed thoroughly, would swoop in to save him; save the day... He'd do this with "star players" on the team as well; so that when disputes would arise, naturally, they would take his side; due to all the ass kissing and ball washing.

Dude has been this way his entire life; A Spoiled brat; with uncles playing professional sports, making millions of dollars; he'd get lots of nice things given to him, then would walk around like HE was responsible for it.... never did like the guy.

And due to how I am, a no-nonsense kind of person, very nice and respectful towards nice and respectful people ... but, rub me wrong and I'll be sure you never forget how wrong I'm gonna rub you... which of course is part of what you've seen here.

People who wrong others, don't like to be called out for it.

It's something I've noticed over the years.

In this situation, there are 4 people who owe me money, they are all wrong, and they're now upset, that I've called them out about it; So.. what's a guy to do to make things right?