Updates :: hello world! - whats up with all the Ignorance?

Hey folks,

Been on a bit of a break while still working towards helping to make people more aware of what's happening around them, on all levels of society.

The 'fantasy fall out' really turned into a 'fall out' :: but the spirit was all about getting the Truth out so that people can know both sides. Like so many things in our world, people too often get THEIR Side out first, and make the OTHER side look bad; I just wanted to beat them to the punch.

This is so typical though :: Just last week I ended up in verbal fights with people close to me; Now they were wrong; but what tends to happen with people is, they get upset that I cussed them out; They never look at why I had to cuss them out; They over look how wrong they talked to me, how disrespectful they treated me, and so it's starting to become Pretty annoying.

I'd like to address this to everyone in the world.

If you wrong someone, They have a Right to cuss you out for it;

If they chose not to, that is their choice; but if they chose TO do it, it's not because they are a bad person; no... YOU are a bad person for mistreating them, and expecting to be Respected in return.

What annoys me is, I've developed a reputation, that has been miscommunicated and misconstrued by "Victim Mentality" people :: people who like to portray themselves as innocent, when they are far from it.

I say all of this because it's Very similar to what happened with the 'fantasy fall out' - the people named in those blog posts, got upset with me. Nevermind that they wronged me, talked bad about me amongst each other and anyone who would listen ... nevermind that they owed (and many still owe) me money :: They act like I'm supposed to just be Okay with it all; and not say, or do anything back.

I'm finding that there are Far too many people in our World like this :: What the hell is happening?

What has made so many people think they can say, and do anything, and NOT face repercussions?

How have so many people gotten such Crazy thoughts in their heads?

Maybe it's because I grew up playing sports, and I recognize that we all make mistakes; but when we Make them, it only benefits us to acknowledge the mistake, so we can Learn from it --- and NOT Make the SAME Mistakes over and over again.

While I work on not cussing people out who wrong me; there doesn't seem to be any other peaceful alternatives; So while I look and pray for one, please pray for me :) Pray for our world... and for the hope that Common sense, will one day soon, become "common"

Fantasy Fall Out 3.... the end

Ok,,, time to put this story to bed.

It really is a shame that all of this had to happen over a Fantasy game...

I mean, ThaShow was not created to address my "personal issues with other people" - it was created to discuss larger issues that impact us all; as a society, a nation, and a people struggling to understand our lifes' purpose.

But, this story to me, seemed to be somewhat related to those lager, big picture topics; Such as how race affects how people treat Other people. I do wonder if things would have gone the same way, if I were a white guy.

Would I have been called ignorant; a cheater; would my motives have been questioned the same way; Would my response to these accusations (if they came) been treated with the same disrespect, if I were white?

These are the kinds of questions black people have. Like the Professor Louis Gates; as a black man, I and many others already know what kinds of things he was saying to the Police Officer; We all come from a shared experience in America, where we feel the Police unfairly target us; pick on us; harass us, and for a man of his stature to be harassed In His Own Home, I can understand totally, why the man got Irate.

White people on the other hand, don't.

It stems from their insensitivity towards the black experience... their lack of understanding, perhaps derived from a lack of Care, to find out, what it means to be black "in America" ...

Jenny, likewise, could not understand why I go so Irate with her on her voicemail; because she called me Niggorant; Oh... I mean Ignorant.

I think it's one of the worst insults for a white person to lob at a black person; because of the history; the meaning of the word, and the ongoing bad relationship between the white and black race -- which many whites are quick to point at and say "it's gotten better!" ... but better, ain't all that great still; and that my dear white people of the world; is the real issue.

I'm a very direct person. When I have a problem with someone, I tell them.

Perhaps that too, is part of being black; you whitness a lot of directness growing up, in your family, and others - so you naturally take hold to it as well. The White world would view this as "being confrontational" ... and yet, I believe the only way to truly solve problems, is to face them - to take them on - and to ... Confront them.

So Confrontational is not always bad.

I would have much rather preferred to have never spoken out about this private situation. I'm not the guy to name names; and so I can understand why those who got named are upset about it. However, had they never done, what they did, this all never would have happened.

Its too hard for them to see that, apparently, because they are continuing to whine and cry about what I post here, even though it's ME who was victimized - NOT them.

I'm the one who was insulted, offended, mistreated, disrespected, and slandered; Not them; I'm the one who's OWED $80 ... Not Them. ... and what sucks about this is, they seem to be taking a 'white is right' approach; a refusal to admit wrong doing; a desire expressed for me to just move on, and forget about what happened in the past. ...

We're right; You're wrong; Let's not talk about it ... and act like it's all good.

As a black man, I have been called racist plenty of times, simply for wanting to Talk about racism. It's the topic, that white people avoid like the plague; And when they do address it, they seem to do so, with such dishonesty, that no progress ever gets made.

Heck, it's early ... only 40 years into this "new world" that was Racist as hell for 400 ... So I guess I'm expecting too much, too soon.

Here's to the hope that progress is made... and to the hope that more white people will start Doing Right by others; This is not to say that blacks don't also wrong people; I know plenty who do it all the time; however their disrespect and wrong doing seems to have Less to do with the race of the other person; and more to do with the "lack" in their own lives; coupled with a misunderstanding of how to get More -- they feel you get more by Taking from others; They do not realize you get more, by GIVING to others.

My past (and character) was brought up in the comment section - and it goes to show you how stupid some of these people are; one incident does not outweigh the multitude of good things I have done in my life.

I have always been pro-love -- even what I did, came out of a center of love, and a desire to make others happy. That's my character... that's who I am.

Even the facts of what happened in the Fantasy league spell out who I really am. My actions, were done at a time when I most likely was NOT going to even make it to the final round; My actions were done to make the championship round more interesting, more even; The people in the Consolation round should have understood that; They should have stopped playing - they should have realized that they were taking Away players from people who EARNED the right to play "for the money" ...

But they were selfish; they were self centered; they did not care about the Good of the Game; They only cared about them selves here -- they didn't care about being right either; not 'really right' ... because that's who they are. That is their character...

And ,,, Like attracts Like.

(opposites attract, was a song by Paula Abdul, not a researched, documented fact.)

That's right folks, birds of a feather truly do flock together. Similar people are attracted to one another; This is most likely why they don't understand where I'm coming from; I'm too different from them. My actions are puzzling, and baffling to people like this... it is not in their mental make up, to grasp, that they wronged me, they owe me money, they could have avoided all of this by paying up;

Everyone else paid up ... My friend in AZ sent his money; one guy who thought it was still $10, and didn't realize the price changed to $20 (based on a league vote) complained, voiced his displeasure, and then paid his $20 ... none of their names got dragged into this ;) ...

As I've explained to others close to the story; It's really not even about the Money; To me, it's like these people decided they were gonna Punk me; and I'm not for being punked... :)

For now, this story is going to bed ... no more will be said here at thaShow until a decision is made on what I am going to do; I thank all of you who emailed me, called me, to discuss this with me like an adult; I say shame on you who posted comments under the "anonymous" tag; You are a coward, whoever you are -- and here's to all of you seeking to play Fantasy with 'friends & acquaintences' ... my advice, Stick to the friends; leave the people you don't really know OUT ... you never know what kind of Trouble they may create; or what kind of Character (or lack of it) they have...

Fantasy Fall Out 2....

Just wanted to let you know that K paid up. So now, we're talking about $80 ...not $100

There have been some interesting revelations though. Things happening behind the scenes I was not aware of; Casting an interesting light on ... these people.

I won't name any names here... but apparently a dude we've all known, started seeing Jennifer Loftin, after one of my boys stopped seeing her.

That's Shady ...

What kind of 'friend' starts Dating a friends ex girl??

You can't find any other women in the world?? I understand that sometimes alcohol clouds judgement, and perhaps they hooked up on a drunken night; but to Keep doing it after that?? .... wtf?

Anyways, this new information cast light on the comments made on my original post. Clearly, I was way off in my guesses, and assumptions, of "who" was behind those comments. The NEW information sheds light on exactly who that is.

Dude has been this way all his life; a two faced, back stabbing, kiss ass. Frankly, I've never liked the guy.

He finds out who's in charge, and kisses their ass real good; Washes their balls ya know... makes them feel like King of the Hill; He would do this with our Basketball Coaches; Like a "teachers pet" ... then, he'd start shit with players on the team, and if any of those players lashed out at him, the Coach... who's balls have been washed thoroughly, would swoop in to save him; save the day... He'd do this with "star players" on the team as well; so that when disputes would arise, naturally, they would take his side; due to all the ass kissing and ball washing.

Dude has been this way his entire life; A Spoiled brat; with uncles playing professional sports, making millions of dollars; he'd get lots of nice things given to him, then would walk around like HE was responsible for it.... never did like the guy.

And due to how I am, a no-nonsense kind of person, very nice and respectful towards nice and respectful people ... but, rub me wrong and I'll be sure you never forget how wrong I'm gonna rub you... which of course is part of what you've seen here.

People who wrong others, don't like to be called out for it.

It's something I've noticed over the years.

In this situation, there are 4 people who owe me money, they are all wrong, and they're now upset, that I've called them out about it; So.. what's a guy to do to make things right?

Fantasy League Fall out - Race, Law, Politics

Ok, so here's a quick run down of the events.

Ran a fantasy league last year, for basketball, with 12 teams/GM's, for $20 per player - the winner took all; A total of $240.

After 22 weeks; there was a Playoff; The top 8 teams made the playoff, the bottom 4 went to the "losers bracket" - After the first week of the playoffs; 4 teams remained in the winners bracket; 4 more teams went to the losers bracket for a total of 8 teams in the losers bracket.

Now, in the losers bracket, you had The "winners" of the losers round 1 vs. the Losers of the winners round 1 - In other words; the teams from the winners bracket who Lost; Played the teams from the Losers bracket who won.

Mind you, all the games going on in this losers bracket were for No prize, no money, No anything... but for example purposes, there was a top 4, in the losers bracket and a bottom 4 in the losers bracket.

Meanwhile in the Winners bracket ... it was Thursday; Games were somewhat interesting; In My match up however I was Far behind and most likely was about to lose. In the other Match up it was somewhat close; So, I Released the players from the Bottom 4 teams in the Losers bracket, in order to make the Semi-Final weekend And Championship Round even, and fair... for the 4 Winner bracket teams that were still Playing for the $240 prize.

BUT - One of those loser GM's got upset with me; accused me of Cheating - and it's been all downhill from there.

The guys name, is Mandy - he's a Friend of Jennifer Loftin, who was matched up against a friend of mine; Her Other friend, Mike Yoss was playing against me. They had one more friend, Albert Landi, who was also in the losers bracket, and another guy who I've known since High School, who's got a reputation for being a shady character, We'll call him "Shady K" (who's black) - and all 5 of them are 'siding together' - refusing to pay their $20 - a total of $100

So - enter Race.

The 4 people mentioned above are white. Shady K ... a brotha, who often sides with 'white views' -- and that is where the biggest issue is; It's a shame, but a black man in America cannot take on 4 white people with phone calls, and conversations; because when the conversation gets 'heated' - white people start thinking about the Angry Black Man idealogy that was passed onto them; and they get scared, and take legal action; which often benefits them; and negatively impacts the black man.

I know there are white people reading this who feel, that I should not 'feel' this way; and my response to those white people is, You're not being realistic. These are one of the many after-effects of racism and segregation in America for over 400 years; the way of life is still with us; the lack of justice for blacks is real.

It began with text messages from the white girl, a blonde, blue eyed woman (America's favorite) - calling me a cheater. When I backed her into a corner, asking her to explain what prize Mandy was playing for... or whether or not I was the ONLY GM who could sign the newly released players; She had nothing for me; So, rather than admit that she was wrong, she called me "ignorant" and decided it was the end of the conversation.

Now, my problem with this is ... The word Nigger = Ignorant; and often when a white person calls a black person Ignorant; What they really mean is "Nigger".

There is a lack of respect amongst many white people, for intelligent blacks. If a black man makes a point that is better than theirs, they simply call that black person Ignorant. It's an insult to their intelligence... and that's how I took it, because that's what it was.

She wouldn't take my call, of course, so I left her a piece of my mind on her voicemail. Now, of course, in addition to calling me ignorant, she has convinced her white friends that I'm also Crazy too.

This is a side-effect of our Sex-laws in America which have gone wrong; Women feel everything they do is right; so when a man disagree's; if a man gets upset at how he's being treated and voices it; He's called 'crazy, psycho, insane' and so on.

In my opinion, all of this falls in the area of "Slander" - but again the problem is if I pursue it further; she can call the cops on me, and because I'm black and a man, I Go to jail without question.

I'm considering small claims court; to get my $100 back; and I'm also considering asking them to cover the costs of going to court; as well as see what kinds of damages I can add on for Slander;

Do you think I have a case?

America Needs to Grow up about Sex pt. 2

More "sex" news came out last week; on a sad note, to coincide with the passing, due to murder, of Steve "Air" McNair.

What seems to have been happening is, Steve was cheating on his wife. Oh no! Another Pro Athlete cheating?? As I said last time folks, Expect it to happen. Because these men are in a 'different position' in society.

More Opportunity for a guy, means more likely he's going to waiver; Because all men realize that if they weren't rich, if they weren't famous, if they weren't who they were, she wouldn't be offering him any "loving" ...

That's how it works in our society and it's time we Grow up and get real about sex in our society; It's always in the woman's ballcourt. It's easier for women to get laid, than it is for men to get laid. So, the likelyhood of a rich, famous man cheating is very high.

So long as sex works this way... these kinds of stories will be common place; and no one should be surprised.

Sucks that it came out this way though ... that isn't the best way for your wife to find out that you were cheating on her; And apparently, he was also cheating on the crazy girlfriend - which, reports say, is part of the reason for her meltdown, and horrible decision to end Steve's life, and then her own. ... as far as we know.

Which brings me back to this 20 year old woman, and my point about women especially, needing to grow up about Sex. She was surprised that He had a girl on the side?? ... Wasn't SHE the girl on the side? If a guy or girl has a guy or girl on the side, chances are, you, they, are not the Only one, on the side.

I learned a long time ago; that if a woman will cheat on her man to be with me, she'll cheat on me too. Same goes for a man, that will cheat on his woman, to be with another woman; He's not gonna be faithful to her either... And that's just how it goes.

So the idea that this woman was 'shocked' that Steve had another woman on the side, bothers me to no end; It's more evidence that our women have been lied to, mislead, and are walking around our planet with a false view of reality, when it comes to sex.

The So Called, Double Standard of Sex is a myth; Men and Women are not 'equal' when it comes to 'sex opportunities' - therefore the Standard by which we are judged is also, not going to be equal either.

As a society, we either need to change our Views of sex; or explain to women in better detail why the current 'standard' or age-old stanard exists. We either need to educate women better, about how much easier it is for them to get sex vs. men ... so they can understand the Difference; OR we need to stop calling women sluts for having lots of sex with men; while redefining marriage, relationships, and our overall view of sex alltogether.

Something needs to change - namely Us.

America Needs to Grow up about Sex pt. 1

Ok so, I log into my yahoo today; front page story, is about yet another Politician who cheated on his wife. Big Effing deal in my book.

That's right ... I said it ... Big Effing Deal.

Ladies, don't get mad at me; Get mad at our American Society and our uptightness about sex. That's where so many of our problems are right now; never mind medical/health concerns, economic crisis - we're in a LOVE crisis!

You see folks, there is an old adage, that came along with our American, Puritanical Society - that says, "a man is as faithful as his options" ...

When Kobe got in trouble years ago, I predicted at ThaClub that nothing would happen; That he did not rape the girl; that it was a silly, absurd accusation. No man in Kobe's position would ever have to rape anyone.

Yet, there were ladies who just wanted to argue with me, who would say silly things like 'u never know' - and I'm sorry if you're one of those ladies; or one of those guys who enjoys to sympathize with the ladies; but both of you are just plain wrong; In this case, you DO Know. No NBA player has to rape any woman... ever ... ever ... ever.

Because those are men, who have Options and lots of them. If a girl says no, they have 10 other girls in the lobby waiting and hoping he'll come back downstairs so they can get one more chance to get up to his room.

And this is true for All men of stature in American Society. This is NOT true for the rest of us... and ladies, seemingly have No understanding whatsoever, of what it's like to be a Man, when it comes to sex.

Which is why I'm saying today, America needs to Grow up already; Of course the Gov. cheated on his wife; Most Gov's do - that's right, I said it.

Oh the story hasn't come out; They haven't called a news conference to confess it; but, it's happened - I bet you ... This won't be the last politician to come out and confess to an affair; You know it won't ... because these men, have More Opportunities, than the rest of us.

If you're a guy with No Money .. and the Ladies always give me a hard time with this one ... but I don't care because this is just the plain truth -- women Throw it at you. For most of us ... we don't get it thrown at us; when we do, we jump at the opportunity because we don't know when it'll come again.

So, guys in their position, turn down a LOT of chances to cheat; They just get so many thrown at them that, from time to time ... they indulge.

Sex is NOT the same for Men and Women; there IS a double standard, and it's for that reason. The rules are not the same; If you're a man, you have to ask for sex - you have to do things for sex - you have to become someone for sex - there is a lot involved. For women ... all you have to do is walk outside. Some guy will come up to you and ask you for sex (in one way or another) - Some take a more prolonged approach, dinner, movies, ... hopefully some sex later. Other guys get right to the point. But essentially, that's what's happening ladies ... He doesn't really like your dress; it's cool; But, it would look better on his floor.

That's right ... I said that too.

This ladies and gents, is where the double standard comes from.

I have noticed recently, that this idea I have been floating around for some time now, at least 3 to 5 years, is starting to take hold; there is hope for the future indeed. Once we as Americans Understand WHY the "double standard" is in place, then perhaps we can move to a more, mature, adult area in our lives, and as a society.

It's Easier for Women to get laid, than it is for Men to get laid.

Therefore, if a woman is sleeping around, she's a slut. If a guy is sleeping around, he's a player.

Listen ladies... I know most of you hate this double standard - but it exist because YOU Run society.

It is YOU who has determined that man, should commit to only one woman, for life. It's an unrealistic dream - that often does not work out; though sometimes it does; and that's great - but You are going against nature.

Nature always wins. This is where we need to Grow up. This is a fact we need to accept. Men and Women are wired differently - we need to Grow up, and Accept this.

A man takes what he can get; Hate to put it that way ... but it's true. Let's say a man is able to get a woman; He's grateful, glad he's got one -- but as time goes on, he moves up in stature, and suddently, he's able to get more women; More women are interested, more women are offering him a night of pleasure; and now that he can... he'll look into it.

That's how we are wired ...

Ladies, you already have options - you do - you have lots of men interested in you, at nearly all points of your lives; Even when you're taken; So... when You pick a man, he's the man You want. You don't want anyone else;

That's how you are wired ladies;

You're different ... We're different

There is only one remedy - we have to change how 'men's options' currently are. Until it's as easy for men to get laid, as it is for women to get laid, men will continue to cheat on their wives; They'll continue to pick a woman based on, 'who wants me' - rather than 'that's who I want'

Who wants me works in the short term ... until someone else wants me.

But Al, you are contradicting yourself ... didn't you say that guys "of stature" Have options, and basically get to pick 'who they want' ...? ... some of you may be saying...

What I forgot to explain is this; Sure those guys have options "now" - but before they became men of stature, they were just like the rest of us guys who had none. They remember when they couldn't get it so easily. They love their wives, often they don't cheat because of something they dislike about their wife; It has more to do with taking advantage of an opportunity to be with a woman, they otherwise, would not get a chance to be with.

You see, women are Beautiful to us... we love how you look; We do.

Not all of you are shaped the exact same; and yet we love every distinction. You drive us guys wild ... you make us desire you, with the things you wear ... and sometimes don't wear. Lots of men, desire Lots of different women .. and yet, Most of us can only get one who desires us.

So when a guy is in a position, where lots of women, who he desires, also has desire for him ... he realizes immediately that he's in a position other men are Not in; and he can either enjoy the moment; or pass on it.

Other men would not pass it up. And often, the 'other man' mentality takes over. The, ... Hey, If I wasn't who I am, she would not be here right now. So I'm gonna take these down, for all my dudes in the world, who wish they could.

... the Gov was out in Argentina - you know she was a bad motha .... (shut yo mouth) ... what? I'm just talkin about sex ...

We need to grow up folks - perhaps when it's as easy for men, as it is for women, Then our 'double standard' goes by the wayside. Perhaps then we stop calling women sluts if they enjoy spreading pleasure, love, and joy - perhaps we see more loving relationships between men and women; Perhaps our family lives change - perhaps violence goes down in our society; fewer domestic cases; fewer rape cases; People living longer - more happier, productive lives ...

Perhaps, as silly as it may sound, More sex Truly is THE Solution ...

ThaShow Returns :)

Hey folks,

I took some 'blogging time' off - although if any of you know me personally you know I've had no vacations; I need one; I'll take one soon.

Glad to be back, got LOTS on my mind, and you know i'll be sharing it.

Kobe was robbed again - 3rd time - he should have 4 MVP's to go with his 4 Championship Rings; Congratulations Kobe, Lakers, Phil, Los Angeles, Let's do it again next year.

First up... My comments on "America Needs to Grow up about Sex"

Got lots, and Lots to say about this issue; might be a 4 part blog entry; we'll see how things progress.

Money Makers? Where art thou?

Part of my hiatus has been due to me getting involved in a New Business Venture that I'm very excited about. So I'll be talking about that in detail here; and giving you all some information on that; as well as another business that's good in the short term for those of you already in business; especially those of you looking to earn True Passive Residual Income.

Ohhhhh get ready - cuz here I come.

Kobe Bryant MVP 2009 - Making the case

This year, there has been a lot of talk of awarding Lebron James with the MVP For this season. It's way too early for this kind of talk but, if people are going to do it, then please consider this.

In two match ups between Kobe and Lebron this year, Kobe's team won, Lebron didn't play well largely due to Defense played by Kobe Bryant, and Kobe's team has a higher winning percentage this year.

If the Lakers finish in 1st place in the west, and Lebron's Cavs are 2nd to Boston; How can you justify awarding Lebron James with the MVP? If the Lakers finish the season with the best record in the NBA, and the Cavs are 1st in the East but 2nd record-wise; How can you justify awarding Lebron James with the MVP?

You want to try the, "Lebron's team isn't as good as Kobe's, so they got as far as they did because of Lebron" argument?

Well, that didn't work for Kobe.

All those years Steve Nash robbed Kobe of his MVP when he had players like Kwame Brown and Brian Cook to pass the ball too - even though most of the time they fumbled it out of bounds, traveled, or turned it over in some way ... Kobe was able to guide a Very Less talented team into the playoffs, and they "almost" beat Nash's more experienced and more talented team.

If that argument didn't work for Kobe; How can you justify it for Lebron James?

Lately, the MVP has gone to the best player, on the best team - Last year, Kobe got it because the Lakers were in 1st place - AND - he had another phenominal year. He's having another one of those hall of fame seasons; His team is near the top.... Time to start the Kobe back-to-back MVP Talks for th 2008-2009 season, NOW!

Poor Jessica Simpson, Meltdown reported...

Yep... another case of the media driving people crazy. Jessica Simpson had a meltdown at a concert ... I am guessing all the media hype about her being Fat got to her; Those pictures were blasted everywhere ... you saw them. Seemingly every television station, every show of every hour, every magazine or newspaper had something about it; Poor girl ...

They do this all the time though; some blame the paparazzi for Princess Diana's demise. Look at what they made Kanye do ... the guy lost his mom give him some space, and just this week, Miley Cyrus says the media is coming after her... Stating that, they did it to Britney, (and she did go crazy) but now that she's back on top, they're coming after her.

And while She is breaking the law... we wouldn't know about it if the media wasn't telling us. They're kind of intrusive... and yet, I am sure they like it that way.

Let's face it ... Drama Sells...

People, Eat it up.

So, Until People start desiring to eat something else ....

I guess what I'm trying to say here is, in my opinion only of course, that our media will do what we tell it to do; It will tell us what we really want to know; and if that's what we ask for, then that's what they'll give us; ... Eventually, We need to stop giving a shit about stuff like this so that our media can stop giving a shit too. Let's steer our attention and to do that, I mean let's steer our Interests towards creating that better society; the more loving, more equal, more Happy society ... Here's to you America!

Here's to our future!

Christian Bale's Tirade on Set: My take - He was right.

You know, we currently live in a society here in America, that is full of Irresponsible people. We do ... don't get mad. Because it's true.

Today, I saw a story about a Tirade by Christian Bale on the set of Terminator 4; Turns out some guy, a DP on the set, kept messing up his scene - from the comments made by many people on TMZ's site, He needs to be shamed for yelling at a guy ... but I disagree.

Listen to the Cuss out here: It's great... it really is.

I'm one of those people who feels that sometimes, people NEED to be cussed out. Unfortunately it doesn't always work; the desired effect is not often reached; usually what happens is, the person who gets cussed out becomes defensive, and denies any wrong-doing; They refuse to take responsibility; and in doing so, Miss the lesson that could have benefited their life.

But here's the flip side - Talking Calmly to these people ... that doesn't work either. I've tried both; The problem resides In that person; NO matter what you say, or how you say it, if they are not the kind of person who's willing to confess fault, they're not gonna listen, they're not gonna learn, and they will do the same mistake over, and over, and over again.

But, read the comments - it's amazing just how many people in our society think it's ok for Non-Professional People to ignore the Rules around Professional People.

I get it - MOST people in America are NOT Professionals. I totally understand. So this is already a conversation about two types of people at odds - the Non-Pro's often Mock the Pro's - because the Non-Pro's are unwilling to do what it takes to BE a Pro.

That's what it comes down to really - and it's starting to effect all aspects of American Society; Our Economic Troubles have as much to do with how Non-Professional Americans are, as with anything the "gov't" can be blamed for doing ... or not doing.

Ultimately the problem is US!

Seriously, we have too many people who don't know WHEN To be serious; My thinking is because they were Too serious as kids; and now that they're adults, they don't wanna be serious anymore.

I say that, from my Own Experience ... from knowing many people that I went to High School with, who were 'mature' when I was just enjoying being a kid; Now... It's the reverse; I'm the mature one, who still can have a good time, relax, laugh, and enjoy myself - but I can be serious when the time is right; I can be in professional mode when I need to be; And they ... cannot.

I tried to do business with many of my friends; They failed - the businesses failed too, because my Friends failed to be serious; They made excuses for why they didn't do what they were supposed to do; They blamed others, they blamed circumstances; They pointed fingers; and left me out to dry most of the time; I had to transition into another type of business because ... Like Bale found out, it's frustrating trying to accomplish something BIG with people who think Small....

So, I don't blame him for Cussing this DP out. I understand - and frankly it's sad that Other people in our society don't get it.... Hopefully someone somewhere can wake people up - and send them a box of "Grow the Fuck up" ... before it's too late for us to recover from what this Current Generation of Lesser Mentally Developed people are doing.

Sex Offender Laws Unjust? - Miley Cyrus & Justin

Happy New Year!!

Been on vacation from blogging, but I'm back ... with a story that I saw when it first came out, I wanted to write about it, but chose to wait to see what happens.

Miley Cyrus, the 16 year old daughter of Billy Ray Cyrus ... has been dating a 20 year old Underwear Model for a few months now. That's a 4 year difference that basically means, what's going on here is Illegal. Read it here...

But why are there literally no stories online about this? You'll find it in the comment section of stories like this one, but not from the Writers of these stories. It seems to me that we have some Serious Issues with our Sex Offender laws.

Had this been a normal girl, dating a 20 year old, With parental consent, it is Still against the law. The DA can prosecute regardless of what the parents think. And usually, that's what the DA would do. Meaning a normal guy who's dating a girl who's not yet 18, Can be forced to register as a sex offender, for life.

Yet, in this special situation, the daughter of a wealthy celebrity who happens to be a wealthy celebrity as well, is allowed to get away with breaking the law. Specifically, her 20 year old, nobody boyfriend is allowed to break the law. No one wants to bag and tag him, apparently. No DA wants to put him in jail, and force him to register for life as a Sex Offender; Perhaps doing so would draw too much attention to just how Unlawful our Sex Offender laws truly are.

If you have enough money, or in this case, happen to be dating someone with enough money, the sex offender laws don't apply to you. Otherwise, you're lumped in with Rapist, Child molesters and abusers, and awful, dangerous people.

Look at Dateline and it's highly controversial show, To Catch a Predator. Adults posing as 13-14 year old decoys Invite men over to their place after entycing them into steamy, often x-rated conversations - all of it, apparently seemingly consensual- just like Miley consents to date Justin - the Older man, and the Younger 'decoy' agree to do something; And many people in our society call these men, sickos, perverts, many are forced to register as sex offenders - but why is no one calling Justin a sick perv?

Are we that in love with our celebrities that we Turn a blind eye when they do what the rest of us cannot do? Elvis? Jerry Lee Lewis? I would include R. Kelly, but he's black, and is often called a sick perv ... I guess we'll make exceptions for race :)

Which makes me wonder how well received a story like this would be if the Young Wealthy Celebrity were a black girl, dating an Older man.

Of course, the Official Statement is that these two are not dating; that they are 'just friends' - Of course - like she's gonna go on record saying 'yes we're dating, we hook up, have sex, and do everything normal girl FRIENDS and boy FRIENDS do.'

Too bad we don't have a website to post their text messages and emails back and forth to one another. I'm willing to wager money there is all kinds of evidence that more than "just friends" is going on - besides, How often do you hear that with famous people that don't want the media all in their business... ?

I recently saw a Video on TMZ.com .. where Brandy was coming out of the mall with Tyrese Gibson and both of them seemingly tried to play it off for the cameras, that they were not together. Later in that video, after being followed around and harrassed, Tyrese comes over and asks them to stop filming, to leave him alone, mentions he and Brandy are 'just friends', and that he's a private person - basically sounds like he's saying, yes we're dating or having sex, but it's none of your business - and I don't want the world to know.

The point I'm getting at is, we either need to re-evaluate our sex offender laws - or call for the prosecution of Justin, the underwear model for breaking the law. Read More...

We need to be consistent; otherwise if we're gonna make Exceptions, then let's examine the list to see who else is eligible for the same kind of treatment.

That's justice... vs. Just US (which normally only applies to the rich.)