Fantasy Fall Out 2....

Just wanted to let you know that K paid up. So now, we're talking about $80 ...not $100

There have been some interesting revelations though. Things happening behind the scenes I was not aware of; Casting an interesting light on ... these people.

I won't name any names here... but apparently a dude we've all known, started seeing Jennifer Loftin, after one of my boys stopped seeing her.

That's Shady ...

What kind of 'friend' starts Dating a friends ex girl??

You can't find any other women in the world?? I understand that sometimes alcohol clouds judgement, and perhaps they hooked up on a drunken night; but to Keep doing it after that?? .... wtf?

Anyways, this new information cast light on the comments made on my original post. Clearly, I was way off in my guesses, and assumptions, of "who" was behind those comments. The NEW information sheds light on exactly who that is.

Dude has been this way all his life; a two faced, back stabbing, kiss ass. Frankly, I've never liked the guy.

He finds out who's in charge, and kisses their ass real good; Washes their balls ya know... makes them feel like King of the Hill; He would do this with our Basketball Coaches; Like a "teachers pet" ... then, he'd start shit with players on the team, and if any of those players lashed out at him, the Coach... who's balls have been washed thoroughly, would swoop in to save him; save the day... He'd do this with "star players" on the team as well; so that when disputes would arise, naturally, they would take his side; due to all the ass kissing and ball washing.

Dude has been this way his entire life; A Spoiled brat; with uncles playing professional sports, making millions of dollars; he'd get lots of nice things given to him, then would walk around like HE was responsible for it.... never did like the guy.

And due to how I am, a no-nonsense kind of person, very nice and respectful towards nice and respectful people ... but, rub me wrong and I'll be sure you never forget how wrong I'm gonna rub you... which of course is part of what you've seen here.

People who wrong others, don't like to be called out for it.

It's something I've noticed over the years.

In this situation, there are 4 people who owe me money, they are all wrong, and they're now upset, that I've called them out about it; So.. what's a guy to do to make things right?

Fantasy League Fall out - Race, Law, Politics

Ok, so here's a quick run down of the events.

Ran a fantasy league last year, for basketball, with 12 teams/GM's, for $20 per player - the winner took all; A total of $240.

After 22 weeks; there was a Playoff; The top 8 teams made the playoff, the bottom 4 went to the "losers bracket" - After the first week of the playoffs; 4 teams remained in the winners bracket; 4 more teams went to the losers bracket for a total of 8 teams in the losers bracket.

Now, in the losers bracket, you had The "winners" of the losers round 1 vs. the Losers of the winners round 1 - In other words; the teams from the winners bracket who Lost; Played the teams from the Losers bracket who won.

Mind you, all the games going on in this losers bracket were for No prize, no money, No anything... but for example purposes, there was a top 4, in the losers bracket and a bottom 4 in the losers bracket.

Meanwhile in the Winners bracket ... it was Thursday; Games were somewhat interesting; In My match up however I was Far behind and most likely was about to lose. In the other Match up it was somewhat close; So, I Released the players from the Bottom 4 teams in the Losers bracket, in order to make the Semi-Final weekend And Championship Round even, and fair... for the 4 Winner bracket teams that were still Playing for the $240 prize.

BUT - One of those loser GM's got upset with me; accused me of Cheating - and it's been all downhill from there.

The guys name, is Mandy - he's a Friend of Jennifer Loftin, who was matched up against a friend of mine; Her Other friend, Mike Yoss was playing against me. They had one more friend, Albert Landi, who was also in the losers bracket, and another guy who I've known since High School, who's got a reputation for being a shady character, We'll call him "Shady K" (who's black) - and all 5 of them are 'siding together' - refusing to pay their $20 - a total of $100

So - enter Race.

The 4 people mentioned above are white. Shady K ... a brotha, who often sides with 'white views' -- and that is where the biggest issue is; It's a shame, but a black man in America cannot take on 4 white people with phone calls, and conversations; because when the conversation gets 'heated' - white people start thinking about the Angry Black Man idealogy that was passed onto them; and they get scared, and take legal action; which often benefits them; and negatively impacts the black man.

I know there are white people reading this who feel, that I should not 'feel' this way; and my response to those white people is, You're not being realistic. These are one of the many after-effects of racism and segregation in America for over 400 years; the way of life is still with us; the lack of justice for blacks is real.

It began with text messages from the white girl, a blonde, blue eyed woman (America's favorite) - calling me a cheater. When I backed her into a corner, asking her to explain what prize Mandy was playing for... or whether or not I was the ONLY GM who could sign the newly released players; She had nothing for me; So, rather than admit that she was wrong, she called me "ignorant" and decided it was the end of the conversation.

Now, my problem with this is ... The word Nigger = Ignorant; and often when a white person calls a black person Ignorant; What they really mean is "Nigger".

There is a lack of respect amongst many white people, for intelligent blacks. If a black man makes a point that is better than theirs, they simply call that black person Ignorant. It's an insult to their intelligence... and that's how I took it, because that's what it was.

She wouldn't take my call, of course, so I left her a piece of my mind on her voicemail. Now, of course, in addition to calling me ignorant, she has convinced her white friends that I'm also Crazy too.

This is a side-effect of our Sex-laws in America which have gone wrong; Women feel everything they do is right; so when a man disagree's; if a man gets upset at how he's being treated and voices it; He's called 'crazy, psycho, insane' and so on.

In my opinion, all of this falls in the area of "Slander" - but again the problem is if I pursue it further; she can call the cops on me, and because I'm black and a man, I Go to jail without question.

I'm considering small claims court; to get my $100 back; and I'm also considering asking them to cover the costs of going to court; as well as see what kinds of damages I can add on for Slander;

Do you think I have a case?

America Needs to Grow up about Sex pt. 2

More "sex" news came out last week; on a sad note, to coincide with the passing, due to murder, of Steve "Air" McNair.

What seems to have been happening is, Steve was cheating on his wife. Oh no! Another Pro Athlete cheating?? As I said last time folks, Expect it to happen. Because these men are in a 'different position' in society.

More Opportunity for a guy, means more likely he's going to waiver; Because all men realize that if they weren't rich, if they weren't famous, if they weren't who they were, she wouldn't be offering him any "loving" ...

That's how it works in our society and it's time we Grow up and get real about sex in our society; It's always in the woman's ballcourt. It's easier for women to get laid, than it is for men to get laid. So, the likelyhood of a rich, famous man cheating is very high.

So long as sex works this way... these kinds of stories will be common place; and no one should be surprised.

Sucks that it came out this way though ... that isn't the best way for your wife to find out that you were cheating on her; And apparently, he was also cheating on the crazy girlfriend - which, reports say, is part of the reason for her meltdown, and horrible decision to end Steve's life, and then her own. ... as far as we know.

Which brings me back to this 20 year old woman, and my point about women especially, needing to grow up about Sex. She was surprised that He had a girl on the side?? ... Wasn't SHE the girl on the side? If a guy or girl has a guy or girl on the side, chances are, you, they, are not the Only one, on the side.

I learned a long time ago; that if a woman will cheat on her man to be with me, she'll cheat on me too. Same goes for a man, that will cheat on his woman, to be with another woman; He's not gonna be faithful to her either... And that's just how it goes.

So the idea that this woman was 'shocked' that Steve had another woman on the side, bothers me to no end; It's more evidence that our women have been lied to, mislead, and are walking around our planet with a false view of reality, when it comes to sex.

The So Called, Double Standard of Sex is a myth; Men and Women are not 'equal' when it comes to 'sex opportunities' - therefore the Standard by which we are judged is also, not going to be equal either.

As a society, we either need to change our Views of sex; or explain to women in better detail why the current 'standard' or age-old stanard exists. We either need to educate women better, about how much easier it is for them to get sex vs. men ... so they can understand the Difference; OR we need to stop calling women sluts for having lots of sex with men; while redefining marriage, relationships, and our overall view of sex alltogether.

Something needs to change - namely Us.

America Needs to Grow up about Sex pt. 1

Ok so, I log into my yahoo today; front page story, is about yet another Politician who cheated on his wife. Big Effing deal in my book.

That's right ... I said it ... Big Effing Deal.

Ladies, don't get mad at me; Get mad at our American Society and our uptightness about sex. That's where so many of our problems are right now; never mind medical/health concerns, economic crisis - we're in a LOVE crisis!

You see folks, there is an old adage, that came along with our American, Puritanical Society - that says, "a man is as faithful as his options" ...

When Kobe got in trouble years ago, I predicted at ThaClub that nothing would happen; That he did not rape the girl; that it was a silly, absurd accusation. No man in Kobe's position would ever have to rape anyone.

Yet, there were ladies who just wanted to argue with me, who would say silly things like 'u never know' - and I'm sorry if you're one of those ladies; or one of those guys who enjoys to sympathize with the ladies; but both of you are just plain wrong; In this case, you DO Know. No NBA player has to rape any woman... ever ... ever ... ever.

Because those are men, who have Options and lots of them. If a girl says no, they have 10 other girls in the lobby waiting and hoping he'll come back downstairs so they can get one more chance to get up to his room.

And this is true for All men of stature in American Society. This is NOT true for the rest of us... and ladies, seemingly have No understanding whatsoever, of what it's like to be a Man, when it comes to sex.

Which is why I'm saying today, America needs to Grow up already; Of course the Gov. cheated on his wife; Most Gov's do - that's right, I said it.

Oh the story hasn't come out; They haven't called a news conference to confess it; but, it's happened - I bet you ... This won't be the last politician to come out and confess to an affair; You know it won't ... because these men, have More Opportunities, than the rest of us.

If you're a guy with No Money .. and the Ladies always give me a hard time with this one ... but I don't care because this is just the plain truth -- women Throw it at you. For most of us ... we don't get it thrown at us; when we do, we jump at the opportunity because we don't know when it'll come again.

So, guys in their position, turn down a LOT of chances to cheat; They just get so many thrown at them that, from time to time ... they indulge.

Sex is NOT the same for Men and Women; there IS a double standard, and it's for that reason. The rules are not the same; If you're a man, you have to ask for sex - you have to do things for sex - you have to become someone for sex - there is a lot involved. For women ... all you have to do is walk outside. Some guy will come up to you and ask you for sex (in one way or another) - Some take a more prolonged approach, dinner, movies, ... hopefully some sex later. Other guys get right to the point. But essentially, that's what's happening ladies ... He doesn't really like your dress; it's cool; But, it would look better on his floor.

That's right ... I said that too.

This ladies and gents, is where the double standard comes from.

I have noticed recently, that this idea I have been floating around for some time now, at least 3 to 5 years, is starting to take hold; there is hope for the future indeed. Once we as Americans Understand WHY the "double standard" is in place, then perhaps we can move to a more, mature, adult area in our lives, and as a society.

It's Easier for Women to get laid, than it is for Men to get laid.

Therefore, if a woman is sleeping around, she's a slut. If a guy is sleeping around, he's a player.

Listen ladies... I know most of you hate this double standard - but it exist because YOU Run society.

It is YOU who has determined that man, should commit to only one woman, for life. It's an unrealistic dream - that often does not work out; though sometimes it does; and that's great - but You are going against nature.

Nature always wins. This is where we need to Grow up. This is a fact we need to accept. Men and Women are wired differently - we need to Grow up, and Accept this.

A man takes what he can get; Hate to put it that way ... but it's true. Let's say a man is able to get a woman; He's grateful, glad he's got one -- but as time goes on, he moves up in stature, and suddently, he's able to get more women; More women are interested, more women are offering him a night of pleasure; and now that he can... he'll look into it.

That's how we are wired ...

Ladies, you already have options - you do - you have lots of men interested in you, at nearly all points of your lives; Even when you're taken; So... when You pick a man, he's the man You want. You don't want anyone else;

That's how you are wired ladies;

You're different ... We're different

There is only one remedy - we have to change how 'men's options' currently are. Until it's as easy for men to get laid, as it is for women to get laid, men will continue to cheat on their wives; They'll continue to pick a woman based on, 'who wants me' - rather than 'that's who I want'

Who wants me works in the short term ... until someone else wants me.

But Al, you are contradicting yourself ... didn't you say that guys "of stature" Have options, and basically get to pick 'who they want' ...? ... some of you may be saying...

What I forgot to explain is this; Sure those guys have options "now" - but before they became men of stature, they were just like the rest of us guys who had none. They remember when they couldn't get it so easily. They love their wives, often they don't cheat because of something they dislike about their wife; It has more to do with taking advantage of an opportunity to be with a woman, they otherwise, would not get a chance to be with.

You see, women are Beautiful to us... we love how you look; We do.

Not all of you are shaped the exact same; and yet we love every distinction. You drive us guys wild ... you make us desire you, with the things you wear ... and sometimes don't wear. Lots of men, desire Lots of different women .. and yet, Most of us can only get one who desires us.

So when a guy is in a position, where lots of women, who he desires, also has desire for him ... he realizes immediately that he's in a position other men are Not in; and he can either enjoy the moment; or pass on it.

Other men would not pass it up. And often, the 'other man' mentality takes over. The, ... Hey, If I wasn't who I am, she would not be here right now. So I'm gonna take these down, for all my dudes in the world, who wish they could.

... the Gov was out in Argentina - you know she was a bad motha .... (shut yo mouth) ... what? I'm just talkin about sex ...

We need to grow up folks - perhaps when it's as easy for men, as it is for women, Then our 'double standard' goes by the wayside. Perhaps then we stop calling women sluts if they enjoy spreading pleasure, love, and joy - perhaps we see more loving relationships between men and women; Perhaps our family lives change - perhaps violence goes down in our society; fewer domestic cases; fewer rape cases; People living longer - more happier, productive lives ...

Perhaps, as silly as it may sound, More sex Truly is THE Solution ...