Want to have Good relationships with others?

1. Admit it when you are wrong.

Why? Because the other person already knows that you are wrong.

Disputes happen often in life; and one of the main causes that keep disputes going is because the wrong party won't admit to being wrong. Often, that is all they have to do, and the dispute will end. The two people can return to harmony - but they stay in chaos, all because one person is too full of pride, or perhaps ignorance, to realize it's time to bow out gracefully.

I was talking with a lady today - we got into a dispute over something I said over Yahoo messenger

Yahoo has a handy feature, that archives all messages between you and others; so i went to the conversation, showed her what I said, and she refused to acknowledge her fault.

So the dispute carried on.

Eventually she bowed out, disgracefully - saying she doesnt have time for this nonsense.

Now, this is a lady who recently seperated from her husband; would always complain about how her husband treated her; meanwhile look at how she treated me!?!?!

This wasn't the first time - No wonder her husband didn't treat her right.

One of the problems that lots of people like this have, is while they will not treat others right they EXPECT to be treated right.

Sorry, life just does not work that way - human beings are not programmed to react in that manner.

While some have mastered the art of turning the other cheek, the vast majority of us resort to our animal nature.

Mistreat me and I'll mistreat you back.

This really is a give & recieve universe that we're living in and so many relationships fail all because one of the parties dont understand that simple rule.

2. Be honest ...

Why? The other person KNOWS when that you're lying already.

Recently I tried getting this message across to my nephew. Only stupid people lie. Let me rephrase that. Only stupid people keep lying when they've been found out.

I've broken it all down - here is what makes them stupid.

They're lying, and they've been found out - but they actually believe that so long as they dont admit to it, the other person wont really know for sure.

Some liars go to the extent of trying to make the other person feel bad for thinking that they are lying, when in fact, they are lying.

Now, think about it - that's not a relationship that's going to last.

The liar really gains no advantage in the end, and not really in the meanwhile. What they gain is a partner, a friend, a family member who does not Trust them. What they've created is someone in their life who will not support them, will not believe them entirely, will eventually start looking for someone else to spend their time with, and their love or friendship on.

The liar, is too stupid to realize this is what's actually happening.

Often, the liar even lies to themselves in the end, when they are all alone, telling themselves it was everybody else's fault, not their own.

Stupid ...

But I'm sure it helps them sleep well at night.

If you want to have good relationships with other people, be honest and always admit it when you're wrong.

The other person already knows, and they will appreciate you for having the decency and respect to treat them with decency, and with respect.

Al King